What is Blending? Before we can talk about unblending, we first have to understand what blending is. Have you ever felt some emotion very strongly but couldn’t point to any reason why? Or perhaps it...
You may be in your 30s, 40s, 50s, or older and suddenly realizing or suspecting that you have DID. And you may understandably be wondering how you could appear to be fine for so many years and then...
Phase One: Stabilization Experts have come to an agreement that trauma therapy, no matter what kind of therapy is used, should occur in three phases. This is sometimes called the Tri-Phasic treatment...
I’ve been making videos and talking about trauma for months now and it has occurred to me that perhaps I should talk about what trauma is. In our culture, trauma is often trivialized, with people...
In the first four videos of this series, I talked about the possible motivations driving your protector parts that seem to imitate your abusers. Their intentions are good but the ways they put those...
I don’t know who came up with this metaphor, so I can’t give credit, but I find it is an excellent way to sum up the process of healing. Imagine you are hiking up a mountain. We’re not rock climbing...
This is the next-to-last video in my series about protectors disguised as persecutors. If you missed the others you can click on the card on the screen to go to the first video. In this video, I want...
One of the risks of therapy, particularly for people who have DID or other complex trauma, is a loss of relationships. How is it that your healing can potentially lead to the end of friendships or...
In this series, I’ve been sharing different ways perpetrator-imitating alters may be attempting to help even though you may not be experiencing it as helpful. Today, I want to talk about how these...